| Description |
ix, 274 pages : illustrations ; 25 cm |
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Includes index. |
| Contents |
Part 1. Why can't we all just get along? : What the experts say -- The dark side of human nature -- Why we secretly love to hate -- Three ideas that can change your life -- Part 2. Diagnosing your relationship : How good is your relationship? the relationship satisfaction test -- What do you REALLY want? -- The price of intimacy -- The relationship journal -- Good communication vs. bad communication -- How we control other people -- Three troubled couples -- Part 3. How to develop loving relationships with the people you care about : The five secrets of effective communication -- The disarming technique -- Thought and feeling empathy -- Inquiry : "did I get that right?" -- "I feel" statements -- Stroking : "I--it" vs. "I--thou" relationships -- Putting it all together : solutions to common relationship problems -- Part 4. Making the five secrets work for you : Mastering the five secrets -- Using the five secrets in real time : the intimacy exercise -- Intimacy training for couples : the one-minute drill -- Part 5. Common traps and how to avoid them : "Help! the five secrets didn't work!" -- Helping and problem solving -- Hiding your head in the sand : conflict phobia and anger phobia -- Apologizing : "can't I just say, 'I'm sorry'?" -- Submissiveness : "I must please you" -- Resistance revisited : "why should I have to do all the work?" -- Part 6. Advanced techniques : Changing the focus : is there an elephant in the room? -- Positive reframing : opening the door to intimacy--and success -- Multiple-choice empathy : how to talk to someone who refuses to talk to you. |
| Subject |
Interpersonal conflict.
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Conflict (Psychology)
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Interpersonal relations.
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Cognitive therapy.
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| ISBN |
9780767920704 (hbk.) |
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0767920708 (hbk.) |
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